LOS ANGELES — Adam Sandler does lunch. It’s just not at the Ivy or the Soho House.
There is an elementary school outside where you can find him chowing down on a regular basis. “The best thing about my kids’ school is you can show up any day you want and have lunch with your kids. But you better show up with an In-N-Out burger,” Sandler says.
Does that get him cool Daddy points? Not exactly. “Same night, the kids won’t want to go to bed. My best parental technique is to look shocked and say, ‘Go to bed. Don’t you remember the In-N-Out Burger?’ ” says the 47-year-old father of 8-year-old Sadie Madison and 5-year-old Sunny Madeline.
Fatherly issues are on Sandler’s mind in “Blended” (opening Friday), where he plays a single and often clueless father of three daughters who might blend with divorced mom Lauren, mom to two sons.
Q. This is your third movie with Drew Barrymore after “The Wedding Singer” and “50 First Dates.” How do you describe the chemistry between the two of you?
A. The truth is I love Drew. I’ve known her a long, long time and we’ve done three movies together. We’ve had the pleasure of falling in love on screen three times now. The first two I faked. In this one, I really fell in love. Okay, I faked it good this time. You better print that.
Q. Do you guys keep in touch between movies?
A. Yes, there are new things going on in our lives since that first movie — namely families. The truth is we’ve always stayed in touch. We’ve always been good friends who check in on each other. I’m always pulling for Drew when a new project comes out and I feel the same thing from her. We have a nice friendship. Then every eight years we call each other and say, “It’s time to do a movie together.”
Q. “Blended” says that as parents, 99 percent of your life belongs to the kids and you have 1 percent for yourself. Do you feel that’s true?
A. My kids give me the most joy, but there are life adjustments. I don’t go out to meet anyone after 9:30 at night. I eat dinner at 6 or 7. If someone makes me stay out until 10:30 at night, I’m angry the entire next day because I’m exhausted.
Q. Are you living a wild movie-star life despite having kids?
A. This is wild. Last night, my wife and I were falling asleep at 8 and we said, “No, we’re not giving into this sleep. Maybe we should go see a movie after the kids fall asleep.” Well, the kids weren’t falling. I’m in one room saying, “Twenty more minutes until they fall asleep.” The next thing I know, I walk out of that room and my wife and my other daughter are curled up sleeping. I’m up half the night with the other one. Welcome to parenthood.
Q. One might think that you’re the “anything goes” dad, but that’s probably not true.
A. I’m a worrier. I’ve learned in life now that when your kid is upset you’re rocked until they’re not upset anymore. Even when they’re not upset, you’re rocked. You’re always nervous because you want your kid to be happy. Now, I understand why my folks were always saying, “Be nice and be safe. Make sure everyone in the family is OK. That’s the most important thing.” Making sure everyone in the family is OK is the most important thing. If the family hurts then you hurt.
Q. One last question with Father’s Day approaching us. Are you the coolest dad at school?
A. Honestly, at school, I’m like Santa. The kids love me and flock around me. It doesn’t make me cool. I’m just a guy with a lot of kids around him.
Q. And a bag of In-N-Out burgers.
A. With extra ketchup.