Dear Abby: She wants to move in with boyfriend but pay no rent

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DEAR ABBY: I have a dilemma, and I need to know who’s right.

My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years wants me to move into his apartment, but he says I can’t live there for free. He wants me to pay half the rent, cable, water and electric bills.

‘m OK with the cable, water and electric. But I say the rent is the same whether I’m there or not, and I don’t think I should have to pay rent on his place. It would be different if we were married.

What do you think? Who’s right? — MAYBE MOVING IN

DEAR MAYBE: You are an independent young woman living in the 21st century, and as such, you should carry your share. That the two of you are not married is even more reason why you should share the cost of the rent.

What your question shows me is that, if the relationship evolves further and you consider making it permanent, premarital counseling could help you and your boyfriend avoid some pitfalls later. Disagreements about money often cause marriages to fail.

DEAR ABBY: I’m 19 and my sister is 16. We have been working as prostitutes here in our state and in several nearby ones.

We know we need help, but we are afraid to ask for it. Hotlines and trafficking programs have called the police on friends of ours who reached out for help.

How can we get help without being forced to testify against my boyfriend and our other friends? — TERI

DEAR TERI: I’m glad you wrote because there is help for you. Contact an organization called Children of the Night. It has helped thousands of young people like you and your sister.

Its toll-free phone number is (800) 551-1300, ext. 0, and it is staffed 24/7. Children of the Night is privately funded and does not call the police on sex-trafficking victims.

Once away from “the life,” you and your sister will be able to study for your high school diploma online by emailing If you would like more information, please visit and see for yourself.

I wish you luck and an easy escape from “the life.” You and your sister are in my thoughts and prayers.

DEAR ABBY: My sister says it’s rude to arrive at a party at the time specified on the invitation. She insists that if the time stated is 8 p.m., you shouldn’t arrive before 8:30.

I disagree, and I told her I believe that guests should arrive on time and to be late is disrespectful. Her response was that I am behind the times. Please let me know who is correct. — ON TIME IN FLORIDA

DEAR ON TIME: Depending upon the type of party it is, there is leeway.

If it’s a cocktail party, guests who prefer not to stand around drinking for hours may choose to arrive late.

However, if it’s a dinner party, the guests should show up promptly so the meal can be served when it’s ready. Sometimes a guest may be 15 or 20 minutes late because of unforeseen circumstances, but if someone is delayed for more than that, the host should be called and warned so the dinner can proceed without being ruined.

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