Dear Abby: Woman fears men will be turned off by her dentures

Will they still find her attractive after learning some of her teeth are false?

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DEAR ABBY: I am 59 years old with a good job. I have a pleasant personality, and I have been told I am attractive. I would love to find someone who would be a very good friend or maybe even a love connection.

The problem is, I wear partials because some of my teeth are missing. I’m very attractive with them in, but I’m afraid if I tell a man I have them, he won’t regard me as attractive anymore. Should I withhold that information until further down the line?

Please advise me because this is holding me back on trying to have a relationship. I don’t want to remain lonely because of this. — READY FOR SOMETHING IN D.C.

DEAR READY: You state that you have a good job. If all that’s holding you back from finding a partner is embarrassment about your dentures, contact a dentist and ask if there are other options, such as implants, that might be a solution for you.

If there are, it will give you the boost of confidence you are seeking. If not, keep in mind that if you are dating the right man in your age group or older, he shouldn’t have as much a problem with your teeth as you fear.

DEAR ABBY: My heart is breaking for my friend who was married just a month and a half ago. She and her husband went on a two-week Mediterranean cruise for their honeymoon. They have not lived together since then. Her husband says he loves her, and I know she loves him, but he has no immediate plans to live with her! She’s heartbroken and is planning an annulment. What advice do you have? — THROWN IN MARYLAND

DEAR THROWN: I wish you had shared a few more details about their situation. I’m surprised your friend wasn’t aware of her husband’s feelings before she married him.

However, as sympathetic as you are about her situation, my advice is to be there for her to lean on but refrain from giving her advice. She’s going to have to figure this out for herself. Some couples do better if they live separately. But if what her husband has in mind was a surprise and is unacceptable to her, she is doing the right thing.

DEAR ABBY: I’m not sure if anyone else has this problem. My husband is constantly grabbing me, either my breasts or my crotch. It’s day and night. We have been married almost 40 years, and I am sick of it.

If I say something, he says, “Oh, I bet the guys you work with would love to be touching you!” Not once have my co-workers ever implied such a thing. I just don’t understand! Any suggestions on how I can make him understand I hate this? — GROPED OUT WEST

DEAR GROPED: Your husband may consider what he’s doing as foreplay or regard you not as a person but his property. Touching someone in this manner without consent could be considered sexual abuse. His comment about your male co-workers may be a back-handed compliment, but why you are sick of hearing it is understandable.

If he doesn’t understand after 40 years that you dislike what he’s doing, it’s because he doesn’t want to, and your feelings are unimportant to him. A marriage counselor may be able to help you get through to him. If he won’t go, go without him.

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