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Dear Abby

Abigail Van Buren's daily relationship advice column.

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Dear Abby: I love my husband of 25 years — and someone else, too

As her unfaithful mate ignores her, woman pines for the man she cheated with years ago.

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Dear Abby: During daughter’s teen years, I was an addict, and she still resents it

Now 36, the younger woman complains that her mom never makes time for her and favors her brothers.

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Dear Abby: If I hang out with male pals, boyfriend berates me for days

He’s convinced they want sex with his girlfriend and that men and women can never be friends.

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Dear Abby: Siblings who idolize their mom don’t know she had an affair

Their sister considers telling them of the cheating so they’ll stop believing their mother’s lies about their father.

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Dear Abby; Newlywed torn as Mom wants ‘just us girls’ vacation but husband wants to come too

The duo have taken many trips together on their own, and mother is hoping the tradition will continue.

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Dear Abby: Man fed up with wife’s elderly cat stumbling, soiling rooms inside

He’s urging her to put the cat down, but she won’t hear of it.

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Dear Abby: I saw engagement ring my boyfriend bought, and I don’t care for it

Lover of dainty jewelry accidentally saw the big rock purchased for the proposal and isn’t sure whether to say anything.

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Dear Abby: Husband says no to children, and to a vasectomy

He insists that his baby-loving wife use an IUD to prevent the kids he dreads.

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Dear Abby: Should I tell my ex that someone raped me during our marriage?

Victim believes secrecy about the crime led to their divorce and now yearns to come clean.

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Dear Abby: I wish I could find a partner without the awful first dates

Those nerve-racking encounters are woman’s worst hurdle to starting a family with a mate.

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Dear Abby: Formerly good-looking husband hasn’t cut his hair or beard for years

The shaggy guy ignores pleas and insults from his wife, who doesn’t want to be seen with him

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Dear Abby: Husband gets mad when I go out with friends

He’s distrustful and prefers that she doing everything with him.

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Dear Abby: Family’s upset that bridesmaid must miss shower

Woman chooses to attend a wedding scheduled the same day, angering her altar-bound cousin.

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Dear Abby: To beat shopping addiction, I need my mom out of my life

Woman realizes her mother’s putdowns are bad for her mental health.

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Dear Abby: When women lift man’s kilt, it isn’t funny, it’s a crime

Scotman and his wife call police every time strangers gleefully commit this sexual assault.

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Dear Abby: Neighbors go beyond the norm in guarding their property lines

The newcomers next door keep to themselves and put up barriers to keep everyone off their turf.

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Dear Abby: We’re expected to buy $50 tickets for niece’s one-woman show

Her foray in Hollywood was unsuccessful, so now she’s back in Kansas coaxing friends and family to the play she wrote, directed and stars in.

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Dear Abby: After man dies of COVID, wife insists on crowded church funeral

Many of his survivors refuse to take the virus seriously, even as others in the family get it.

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Dear Abby: I’ve sent money to online friend for 10 years and want to stop

Generous donor fears she’ll be traumatized if the relationship ends.

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Dear Abby: They’re in their 50s, but Dad still calls them ‘Peanut,’ ‘Poopsie’

The man’s wife can’t stand hearing his adult daughters use cutesy nicknames and baby talk.

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Dear Abby: Separated 20 years, my boyfriend still refuses to divorce

He says it’s too expensive to cut ties with his wife for good.

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Dear Abby: I love my daughter’s boyfriend, hate that she’s cheating on him

The younger woman says she’s having an affair with her co-worker because she’s bored and wants to ‘have fun.’

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Dear Abby: Dinner hosts know man’s avoiding dairy but include it anyway

The person has a chronic condition and suffers discomfort for days after dining with his father and his father’s girlfriend.

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Dear Abby: I’m dating a better man now but miss my abusive ex

Alcoholic tries to resist returning to old, toxic relationship as the new one starts to cool.

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Dear Abby: Always rejected on dating sites, short man considers lying about his height

Women never want to match with him once they learn he’s 4-foot-11.

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Dear Abby: Daughter has frozen me out since I gave advice on her love life

After the mother suggested the woman tell her boyfriend that she’s still close to her ex, she was ordered to stay away and barred from seeing her grandson.

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Dear Abby: Fiance suddenly states he’s against homosexuality

It’s shocking because the couple has gay relatives and friends, and now woman is questioning whether their marriage would work.

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Dear Abby: Should I stay with boyfriend who is facing prison time?

The couple has a child together and the man has put his criminal past behind him, but as his sentencing looms he’s become withdrawn and paranoid.

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Dear Abby: I loved reconnecting with old flame, until I visited his filthy house

The man lives with a large dog, and his place badly needs a deep cleaning.

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Dear Abby: Further thoughts on person vaping weed near a 12-year-old

Many readers thought Abby was too hard on the reader who used marijuana in front of her friend’s future stepdaughter.

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Dear Abby: My husband loves coffee table his ex made, won’t let it go

After 20 years of putting up with this albatross in her living room, wife wants it gone, but he won’t hear of it.

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Dear Abby: After more than 30 years, I’m still sad husband said no to a church wedding

Also, he refuses to take vacations with his wife.