Friend’s loss of life taught White Sox’ Tim Anderson valuable life lessons

With a Player of the Month-caliber April behind him, shortstop Tim Anderson ventures into May, and before long he’ll reminisce and feel very sad.

But no longer will he be overwhelmed.

It was two years ago on May 7 when Anderson’s best friend, Branden Moss, was shot and killed while coming to the aid of an assault victim in the parking lot of a bar in Tuscaloosa, Alabama.

Anderson, who is the godfather of Moss’ oldest daughter, was cut to his very core, so saddened and troubled that it affected his sleep, his mood and his play during his first full season with the White Sox.

“It whupped me up real bad,’’ Anderson said. “It took me to a very dark spot I’d never been.’’

It took more than a few months to sort through the anger, pain and confusion over a senseless tragedy. But Anderson emerged from it with a clearer view of life’s big picture and a toughness he said made him a better, stronger man equipped to confront just about anything life throws his way.

“Things happen,” he said. “You find out you just have to have an understanding of life, and I think I got that now.’’

It has helped Anderson evolve as a person and stand up, be heard and be comfortable enough to mention himself in the same breath as Jackie Robinson.

Counseling helped Anderson sort it all out and find some peace. A 25-year-old married father of two, Anderson remains close to Moss’ family and pays tribute to his memory in numerous ways, writing Moss’ name on his spikes and wearing “BMoss” instead of a personal nickname on the back of his jersey on Players Weekend, to name just two.

When Anderson points to the sky after hitting a home run, it’s Moss he’s reconnecting with.

“It was a dark moment, and it’s a tough thing to talk about, and even tougher thing to get over,” Anderson said. “It taught me to move on, and when I got to the point of being able to move on and understand what the ultimate goal was in life, things got a lot better.’’

Weeks before the tragedy, Anderson was on top of the world after signing a six-year, $25 million contract, a deal with two club options through 2024 that can bring the value to

$50.5 million.

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Anderson called it “life-changing.” What he didn’t know was another life-altering event awaited him, this one much tougher to sort out.

“We were real close, and it hit me out of the blue,” he said. “It’s tough, but it’s something I dealt with, and I’m kind of happy I dealt with that because I feel like now nothing can bother me.’’

While enjoying a blistering offensive April — a .375/.394/.615 hitting line with six homers and 10 stolen bases in 10 attempts — Anderson has become the center of attention on the field and in the clubhouse.

His bat flip after a home run against the Royals triggered a retaliation, bench-clearing incident, ejection, fine, suspension and much discussion about how players should act. In the aftermath of it all, Anderson demonstrated maturity, poise and grace under fire. In his view, he’s taking a stand against baseball’s unwritten rules and one for making the game fun.

“I kind of feel like today’s Jackie Robinson,” the only African American on the Sox told Sports Illustrated. “That’s huge to say. But it’s cool, man, because he changed the game, and I’m getting to a point where I need to change the game.”

“He’s just maturing and growing,” manager Rick Renteria said. “He’s in a place where he knows who he is.”

Knowing where you’ve been and making sense of the dark places certainly helps you know where you’re going.

“Nothing can really knock me off my stool,” Anderson said. “We go through things, and sometimes it’s for the better. Most times it’s for the better.’’