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Dear Abby

Abigail Van Buren's daily relationship advice column.

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Dear Abby: Therapist keeps going off topic, and it frustrates me

Patient with anxiety issues is thinking of breaking up with the therapist who drifts off on tangents.

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Dear Abby: Hairdresser needs a break from clients airing complaints about their lives

The job is great, the negativity not so much.

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Dear Abby: Call center can hear you eating, using the bathroom

Phone rep says callers don’t seem to realize their voices are being drowned out by kids, TV, dogs and other rackets.

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Dear Abby: I don’t want rude mother-in-law to move any closer

Woman’s husband is silent as his mom considers relocating from far away to nearby.

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Dear Abby: Can I stop my friend from sleeping with a married co-worker?

An affair seems likely after the pair made out at an office happy hour and started a texting routine.

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Dear Abby: Girlfriend doesn’t want me seeing my ex or our kids

She objects to the divorced dad attending a birthday dinner for one of the children because his former wife will be there.

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Dear Abby: I host play dates but kids’ parents never return the favor

Mom wants to keep extending the invitations but wonders if she’s being exploited.

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Dear Abby: Single mom hesitates about asking out cute guy next door

She grew up being told a woman should never do the propositioning.

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Dear Abby: I really want us to live together, but boyfriend resists

After two happy years, he still says he’s not ready, and that might be because woman’s divorce is dragging on.

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Dear Abby: Couple on a diet avoids eating out, but relative insists

The reader is skilled at cooking with little sodium, fat and sugar and would rather do that when hosting guests.

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Dear Abby: I’m scared about my boyfriend’s plans to be a cop

He’s a great guy, but woman isn’t sure she can have a future with a man in a dangerous job.

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Dear Abby: Size matters to 19-year-old virgin anxious about sex

The self-conscious man says no to dates because he fears a bad reaction in the bedroom.

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Dear Abby: Money misdeed cost me my home, my car and soon my husband

Woman can’t forgive herself for causing harm to the man she loves.

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Dear Abby: Pregnant woman sick of cleaning up after houseful of slobs

Her fiance, his cousin and the cousin’s girlfriend never pick up their clutter.

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Dear Abby: After 26 years apart, I still love my ex who thinks I’m ‘the enemy’

Both are on the market again and man is considering asking her to dinner.

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Dear Abby: Couple troubled, confused by daughter’s relationship with a much older man

Parents of the woman, 22, refused to allow her beau, 65, into their home.

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Dear Abby: Couple who want to care for grandchild aren’t healthy enough

They refuse to acknowledge that a long stay by the boy, 5, would be more than they can handle.

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Dear Abby: Adults with power of attorney take father from his wife

Woman is being denied contact with her husband, who has some cognitive dementia.

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Dear Abby: Just as marriage is losing its spark, an old flame returns

Woman can’t stop thinking about this man from her past but doesn’t want to hurt her husband of six years.

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Dear Abby: Wife worries as man rapidly loses weight, refuses to see doctor

He’s so thin that people are asking if he’s on drugs — even though he isn’t.

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Dear Abby: Should I date the nice man who brings no ‘fireworks’?

After brief relationship with a very alluring man, divorced mom debates settling for one who is a good provider but not very attractive.

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Dear Abby: When sister visits, she insists on bringing her big, messy dog

The poor cat has to stay locked in a bedroom during these four- to five-day stays.

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Dear Abby: Long-distance boyfriend slows the calls and texts, says he’s busy

Woman thinks they should be in touch at least once a day.

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Dear Abby: Aunt invites me to weekly get-togethers, but I’d rather stay home

The host’s introverted niece can think of better ways to spend a Sunday than mingling and cleaning.

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Dear Abby: First she set us up; now friend’s trying to split us up

Flirty woman arranged for her friend to date a guy but now keeps saying she’s too good for him.

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Dear Abby: I finally met my biological father, then he disappeared

Four years ago, the man welcomed his pregnant teenage daughter into his home. After she moved out, he cut off communication, breaking her heart.

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Dear Abby: Pregnant bride says — If I can’t drink at the party, no one can

Bridesmaid agrees to stick to "mocktails" but wishes she could have made her own decision on alcohol.

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Dear Abby: My boyfriend never disciplines his rude, volatile preteen son

Woman would love to marry this man but dreads being a stepmom to this violent, hot-tempered kid.

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Dear Abby: Husband’s PTSD is ruining our marriage, and he does little to treat it.

Woman feels she only stays married to this man, who sleeps all day and refuses to see a therapist, out of guilt.

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Dear Abby: I have no love life because I’m addicting to gaming

Man wants to quit competing online, but every time he stops he ends up going back.

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Dear Abby: Advice for a mom no longer in love with her husband

Readers suggest beginning therapy, seeing a gynecologist or just sticking it out.

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Dear Abby: My grown children keep ignoring me at family events

Woman divorced their abusive father 30 years ago but always provided for her kids, and now as adults they give Dad all their attention.