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Dear Abby

Abigail Van Buren's daily relationship advice column.

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Dear Abby: Further thoughts on person vaping weed near a 12-year-old

Many readers thought Abby was too hard on the reader who used marijuana in front of her friend’s future stepdaughter.

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Dear Abby: My husband loves coffee table his ex made, won’t let it go

After 20 years of putting up with this albatross in her living room, wife wants it gone, but he won’t hear of it.

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Dear Abby: After more than 30 years, I’m still sad husband said no to a church wedding

Also, he refuses to take vacations with his wife.

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Dear Abby: I’m 25 and engaged, but my parents don’t want me to move out

Woman craves some freedom and some respect from her mom and dad.

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Dear Abby: Dad with Asperger’s offers no support, frustrating daughter

The girl has mental health issues of her own and gets tired of hearing her father focus on his own concerns and ignore hers.

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Dear Abby: Daughter who vowed never to marry wants to try on wedding dress

The teen’s mom, who said her vows in the gown 21 years ago, wants it worn only by someone who believes in marriage.

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Dear Abby: Cheating husband cries when I tell him I’m leaving

He strayed for six years but thought it was OK because the affairs were with men.

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Dear Abby: Every time friend calls from prison, he asks for money

Before his arrest, the two former classmates used to speak almost daily, but now the friendship has changed.

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Dear Abby: Some liked party host’s specialized food, and those who didn’t went hungry

At the family party, there were no alternatives for the children or picky adults who didn’t care for the barbecue dishes.

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Dear Abby: After divorce, man dates his ex’s best friend

Reader taken aback as divorced woman hooks up with the former husband of her BFF.

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Dear Abby: My wife questions everything, and it makes me feel defensive

The tone of her inquiries, sometimes negative, comes off to her husband as second-guessing and distrust.

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Dear Abby: I just tried to help; now I’m barred from seeing my grandkids

Mom disapproves of financial advice given to her daughter after college graduation.

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Dear Abby: If she never initiates sex, does that mean my wife is cheating?

After 28 years of marriage, she doesn’t give any signals that she too enjoys being intimate.

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Dear Abby: During lockdown, I forgot how to talk to people at parties

Shy guy feels rusty as social opportunities are resuming.

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Dear Abby: I’d get a job tied to my passion, if only I knew my passion

While holding out for a gig that enriches the soul, unemployed person is feeling a lot of pressure from Mom to find work.

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Dear Abby: Woman hurt when told she’s so thrifty she must be a millionaire

The person who said it has endured decades of cheap behavior from the penny-pincher and isn’t sure the friendship is worth preserving.

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Dear Abby: When I’m wearing a wig during chemo, how should I handle compliments on my hair?

Cancer patient would rather not reveal the diagnosis to acquaintances who ask about the new look.

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Dear Abby: I don’t share my parents’ disdain for LGBTQ people

Teen with bi and gender-fluid friends isn’t sure whether to speak up to her super-Christian family.

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Dear Abby: Should I stay with man who never gives gifts, talks nonstop?

Woman feels like she loves her boyfriend, even though he often plays victim, contradicts himself and calls and texts her constantly.

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Dear Abby: Parents consider letting addict move back in after rehab

In the past their son has relapsed, stolen from them and broken promises about helping out in the house, but he swears this time he’s taking his recovery seriously.

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Dear Abby: Teen girl shocked by her dad’s idea to help her sleep

The 16-year-old doesn’t want to go to his house anymore after he gave her a vibrator to cure her insomnia.

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Dear Abby: I’m tempted to tell security next time my sister shoplifts

An arrest could hurt her life and her parents’, but the teenager needs to learn about remorse and consequences.

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Dear Abby: Man declares he’s done watching his 3-year-old son

He says he never signed up for fatherhood and is urging his girlfriend to move with him, abandoning her good job and the child care provided by her family.

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Dear Abby: Husband knows I don’t like one kind of jewelry and buys it for me anyway

Wife loses it on Christmas morning after unwrapping yet another box of unwanted bling.

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Dear Abby: Man tells parents they are obliged to help pay for his children’s education

Contributing to their grandchildren would strain the finances of the middle-class couple.

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Dear Abby: I’m starting to resent my husband’s mom for visiting so often

Besides inviting her over a lot, the man calls his mother constantly and sometimes tells her things he shouldn’t.

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Dear Abby: Boyfriend says he won’t call, text me while visiting his ex

The couple usually talks every day, but he plans to go on mute during a weeklong stay for the graduation of his old flame’s daughter.

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Dear Abby: My soul mate is about to marry, and I need to stop it

The man admits he’s not in love with his fiancee but is committing to her out of obligation.

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Dear Abby: Friend gives advice that’s obvious, as though I’m stupid

It’s condescending to be told (unsolicited) that vacation flights need to be booked and chicken should be properly cooked.

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Dear Abby: My dad wants me to drink, Mom says to wait till I’m 21

Reader, 19, wants to sample alcohol with father before going off to college but expects disapproving mother will find out.

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Dear Abby: Mom keeps inviting my former husband — and the Other Woman — to her house

The mother angers her daughter by playing host to the unfaithful ex and one of the women he cheated with.

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Dear Abby: Can we trust our kids to grandparents who say things we don’t like?

They speak up often with their political views and their sexism, and parents worry the opinions will rub off on the children.